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    Spring Fling Checklist

    Spring Fling Checklist

    Cuffing Season noun. slang. the period of autumn and winter, when single people are considered likely to seek settled relationships rather than engage in casual affairs.

    We all know it, our friends are getting cuffed up left and right. Posting pictures of their blossoming love. Cute winter holiday photos, engagements, blah blah blah...For those of us that stayed single this past cuffing season we know this as our lazy love time. We get in those cozy, staying in vibes and just start swiping to our hearts content. Rarely going out because of the rain, means all Winter and Fall, I was using my little black book (that’s what I named a contact folder in my phone full of my dick/pussy appointments). Calling all the lovely babes around at my leisure for the occasional love session; in a case or two the month long casual dating fling.

    But as the flowers start blooming, it’s time to get that ass back out there, no longer confined to the Netflix and chill dates.

    As soon as the sun hits I am ready to show off my body and thrive! There’s nothing like being out with friends on warm spring nights and getting hints of summer with sunny park days. This doesn't only mean more outdoor time, but increased sex drive too. We see each other more clearly in the sun, chests are bared, legs come out. In preparation for this inevitable experimentation phase, otherwise known as summer, there are a few things you can try to get yourself in the mood to love and be loved.

    1. Set intentions for new dating experiences/ sexual experiences. There is no time like the present to sleep with that couple that’s been eyeing you at the bar, give your number to that hottie at the coffee shop, get out of your comfort zone…but in doing this remember conversation! Talk about sex more openly, express your limitations, desires, and get that consent. It’s the sexiest way to engage a new partner…

    2. Prepare your body. This is the time to stock up on lube, sexy clothing items for in and out of bed, cleansing products for toys and your lovely parts, as well as being aware of substance intake. I know I tend to start drinking more in the warm weather, so in mind of that, I am careful of how much I'm drinking before bedtime. Too much alcohol means crap sleep, crap sleep means lower libido. It is also a good chance in this weather change up to reflect on how you are choosing to check in with your body. Recognize the things about yourself that make you feel good and calm, this will help you learn more confidence. It definitely translates to the bedroom.

    3. Get tested.  Even if you only had one partner all damn winter, take your cute little butt down to get tested before partaking in the summer fun! You owe it to your new partners to be sure you’re ready for some play.

    4. Invest in learning more about sex. When I say this I mean sex with yourself and others. What fantasies do you have? Learn what it would mean to have a fantasy play out or set the wheels in motion to learn some new moves for the bedroom. Some of my favorite sex instagrams are @thefatsextherapist and @annodright. Also some good reads are : Come As You Are, by Emily Nagoski, Bonk by Mary Roach, Vacation Sex by Dorianne Laux, and How TO Think More About Sex by Alain de Botton.

    Have fun as the sun starts kissing you, take time to play in authentic ways, push boundaries with your sexuality and don’t forget to love yourself!

    XOXO Bigbodymami

    Check me out on instagram: @bigbodymami or my website:

    Five Sex Positive Podcasts You Should Listen To

    Five Sex Positive Podcasts You Should Listen To

    Podcasts are an incredible way to digest information. We’ve rounded up our sex positive favorites that offer an exceptional perspective on important topics today.


    Savage Lovecast

    Savage Love, Dan's sex-advice column, first appeared in the The Stranger, Seattle’s alternative weekly, in 1991. In 1996 Dan launched the Savage Lovecast, a weekly, call-in advice podcast. It is now one of iTunes top 50 podcasts. Dan’s graphic, pragmatic, and humorous advice has changed the cultural conversation about monogamy, gay rights, religiosity, and politics.

    Dan Savage is an author, a sex-advice columnist, a podcaster, a pundit, and a public speaker.

    Why we like it

    “When I write an advice column or record a podcast, what I’m doing is creating this store of common sense in the heads of the listeners who didn’t ask the question. Because often what happens is: someone hears an answer, it doesn’t apply to them at that moment, but then they find themselves in a similar circumstance three or six months later and it comes back to them. That’s what advice columns and podcasts do: implant memories of what you do when x is happening to you.” 


    Dan Savage’s advice is sound, with the situations relatable. His approach is consistent but covers a diverse range of topics and is worth a long-term commitment.


    The Sexually Liberated Woman 

    The Sexually Liberated Woman podcast is an ongoing sex positive dialogue that highlights, celebrates, and encourages the sexually liberated woman—not just the idea of her, but her true-blue sexual empowerment in the flesh. It features vulnerable conversations and laid back discussions with incredible erotic advocates and sexually wise souls.

    Ev’Yan Whitney originally created Sex Love Liberation so that she could “have a place to chronicle her journey into sexual healing and awakening”. Since then, it’s transformed into a safe haven for other women who want to find peace within their sexualities and get their footing as erotic, sensual, self-empowered beings. Her purpose is to work with women intimately to help guide them into their own sexual awakenings and recover the lost connection with their desires.

    Why we like it

    The Sexually Liberated Woman is intentional, empowering and holds true to its promise to share vulnerable conversations and in-depth explanations into Ev’Yan Whitney’s journey into sexual liberation.


    The Heart

    The Heart is a podcast and audio art project about intimacy and humanity, focused on creating culture that challenges the way that we think about love, sex, and gender.

    Kaitlin Prest, host of the Heart, 28, started working with audio 7 years ago when she joined an experimental, erotic college radio show called Audio Smut in Montreal. In 2014, Prest and Kaboli landed a deal with Radiotopia, and have been steadily climbing the iTunes podcast charts to nearly 50-60,000 people downloading the show per episode.

    Why we like it

    The Heart just feels good to listen to. The sound clips, transitions, narrations and overall flow of episodes are distinct from other podcasts but are not isolating in its eccentricity.


    Sex on the Brain with Amory Jane

    Sex on the Brain with Amory Jane is a geeky, feminist take on sex, kink, and culture. This sex-positive podcast from educator and comedic storyteller, Amory Jane, will cover a variety of topics, such as porn, non-monogamy, BDSM, gender, and sex in pop culture.

    Amory Jane, M.A., host of Sex on the Brain, is a sex educator (education coordinator at She Bop), comedic storyteller and feminist filmmaker.

    Why we like it

    Episodes of Sex on the Brain sound like listening in on a conversation between close friends. Amory Jane brings a strong sense of community in which they share true perspectives on experiences we all have. We recommend starting with the  episode featuring the femme sex party.


    Sex Out Loud

    Sex Out Loud interviews leading authors, educators, artists and icons to give you an uncensored, inside look at alternative sexual practices and communities. Tristan Taormino delves into topics from the popular to the taboo, including sex education and sexual health, erotic fantasies, BDSM, non-monogamy, the adult industry, and more. Tristan answers audience questions on the air and shares her 15 years of experience through honest and down to earth sex-positive advice.

    Tristan Taormino is an award-winning author, columnist, sex educator, speaker and filmmaker.

    Why we like it

    Tristan’s experience coupled with the guests she features on Sex Out Loud provides a reputable voice for all things sex-related. We recommend starting with the episode featuring JoEllen Notte on “Sex, Depression and The Conversations We're Not Having”.


    Now that we’ve shared ours, feel free to share yours. What are your favorites?




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