Animations by Poppy Deyes 

There’s something so special, so magnetic, so motivating about springtime. Suddenly, you're emboldened to rearrange furniture, scrub the floors, toss out expired goods in the pantry - but what if your sensual being got a similar level of attention?

We aren’t here to talk about optimizing. We’re all in just seeking out the simple pleasures in life, like giving things some space, and letting curiosity lead. 

This list we’ve compiled below is a gentle push for us all towards feeling a bit more alive and connected to ourselves. Take what sparks something in you and leave the rest!

Let’s start with a physical reset 

This is also known as the big deep-clean.

1. Audit your pleasure tools. Take everything out of your drawers, boxes, suitcases, or wherever you store your toys. Clean them all thoroughly. Do some research ahead of time if you aren’t sure how to properly clean or if you threw away the manual. Check to make sure the batteries are still in good condition. Make sure the chargers still work. Toss all expired products. For everything that’s a keeper, make sure it’s organized in a spot that makes sense in your space.
   
   

2. Refresh your sheets. When’s the last time you bought yourself new sheets? If you have the resources to swap your current threads out for something that feels and looks incredible, go for it. If you’re already in love with the bedding you have, try a homemade pillow mist (like lavender, rose, vetiver).
   
   

3. Reassess your undergarments. Now is the moment to properly rid yourself of any underwear that doesn’t fit, has some kind of defect, or those that just don’t feel good to wear anymore. Keep only what makes you feel confident, supported, and obviously sexy.

Moving on to sensory shifts 

Desire lives in the details.

1. Create new rituals. These new rituals should emphasize your senses in ways you were not making time or space for before. They could be as subtle and low key as adjusting an existing habit, or as high maintenance as creating an entire pleasure corner (like a mirror moment after moisturizing or a 5-minute breathwork session with your favorite scent).
   
   

2. Rotate your scents. Use scent as a cue for season-shifting your body into softness. In case you haven’t already put away the winter candles, go ahead and do so. Room sprays, incense, or anything else that helps you awaken something could be placed in your favorite spaces.
   
   

3. Turn your shower into foreplay. Invest in a new shower head or luxurious accessory to turn your bath or shower into a space you’d want to spend more time in. Add eucalyptus or citrus to the steam. Try slow-touch body wash or massage bars.

Time for decluttering mental space 

Gentle reminder that clutter isn't just physical.

1. Unsubscribe from performance. Let go of any pressure to achieve orgasms or keep up with your past libido. Let your pleasure be exploratory, not goal-oriented. Desire fluctuates, and it’s important to remember that.
   
   

2. Rewrite the narrative. Journal it out: “What kind of intimacy do I crave more of right now?” Be honest! It might surprise you.
   
   

3. Let go of what you no longer connect with. You know that role, routine, or fantasy that used to spark something, but doesn’t anymore? Let it go with gratitude. You’re allowed to outgrow things, even past versions of your pleasure.

Make way for new growth 

We’re clearing out to make space for new things.

1. Start a pleasure log. We aren’t asking you to make a spreadsheet. This is more of jotting down or taking voice notes of things like, what felt good today? What made you catch your breath? Pleasure loves to be remembered.
   
   

2. Invest in something absurdly specific. Ever wanted but never bought that curved toy? How about a clone of your long-distance partner’s anatomy? What about a silk blindfold? You deserve tools that truly work for you.
   
   

3. Schedule more solo date nights. Make more beautiful meals, just for yourself. Read that erotica, take yourself to the movies, dance in slow motion with your eyes closed, bike to a park just to lie in the sun. Do something that reminds you that you’re already whole and wildly magnetic.

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