Oh, long-term love. It's beautiful, it’s reliable, and it’s oh-so-cozy. But let’s face it: living with or dating someone for an extended period of time can sometimes cause that initial flame to dwindle. Fear not, my lovebirds, because keeping things exciting in a long-term relationship isn't as daunting as it sounds. Don’t forget that every relationship ebbs and flows, so don’t be disheartened if your sex life isn’t quite what it used to be. Here are some simple tips to fan those romantic embers into that blazing hot furnace once again!

🔄 Break the routine

Routines might be great for building habits, but they can be the antithesis of passion. Try shaking things up! Swap your typical evening routine of reality TV show binging for a spontaneous date night, a little massage setup in the living room, or a fun trip to the sex shop to grab some fun gadgets for the evening ahead. The key is unpredictability—keep it fun and light and enjoy the mini thrills of spontaneity.

💁‍♂️ Ménage à moi

It might seem counterintuitive, but embracing solo pleasure is not just a delightful way to spend an afternoon; it’s a crucial ingredient in keeping your relationship’s romantic spark alive. Masturbation can help you understand your own desires, which you can then better communicate with your partner.

🗣️ Communicate your desires

Speaking of communication…it's easy to assume your partner knows what you want after years together, so much so it might feel like you even share the same brain. But no one can read your mind — open up about what you want, your desires, fantasies, and anything you feel might bring a fun little zing to the bedroom. 

😊 Little surprises go a long way

Who doesn’t love a good surprise? It could be as simple as bringing home their favorite treat, leaving a flirty note on the bathroom mirror, or sending a steamy text in the middle of the day. 

🎨 DIY date nights 

Set up a wine and paint night sans clothes (?), pull the mattress out in the living room and watch a sexy movie, or try one of our DIY molding kits. Quality time looks different for everyone, but it’s proven that trying something new with your partner builds intimacy and increases oxytocin levels.

💆‍♀️ When in doubt, touch more

While we’re on the topic of happy brain chemicals, never underestimate the power of physical touch. Hold hands, cuddle, or give massages. Physical closeness can boost oxytocin levels, enhancing your emotional connection and kickstarting your physical connection.

😏 Never stop flirting

Flirting shouldn't stop just because you're years into the relationship. A playful wink, a suggestive compliment, or a cheeky little pinch can remind your partner that you’re present, you’re interested in getting it on, or just make them feel appreciated.

Keeping the spark alive in a long-term relationship is all about effort, creativity, and a dash of spontaneity. By integrating one or more of these tips, not only can you keep the flame burning, but you can also uncover the deepest desires in yourself, which opens up room for growth and intimacy in your relationship. Go forth and get hot, lovers!