Ultimately the goal is pleasure, joy and release. You’re not forcing yourself to have sex, it’s not something that feels heavy on you but more of an extension of an expression of love in the for, of pleasure. A sacred space that you get to share with another person, multiple people or yourself. Have sex in a healthy environment where there’s a good amount of communication before and then after. This DOES NOT need to be therapy talk...remember we can speak in a simple way that expresses our feelings of those moments. How great did that feel? What do you want more of? What was sexy? This leaves an open space to explore.