Losing the ability to believe in and love ourselves happens over time. Childhood traumas, shitty exes and cheats, not being good at something, failing someone, embarrassing sexcapades—the list goes on. To top it all off, we are obsessively body-conscious due to the inundation of beauty standards created by the media that we could drown in it all. It’s amazing we’re still functioning human beings, cloning penises and breathing air! Both men and women are subject to these damaging experiences and expectations, whether in moments or in lifelong battles, and it affects us in and out of the bedroom. Here are some ways we can work on releasing negative expectations, bad experiences, and damaged self-esteem so we can feel better in our skin, and ultimately, in the sack.