Dirty talk is an art, a science and sometimes a skill that feels so hard to grasp. Maybe you want to spice things up but don’t know what to say?

There’s good news: dirty talk is 100% attainable through practice and we’re about to make it way less awkward. Welcome to your DIY Dirty Talk Workshop, where we break down how to find your voice, drop the shame, and turn words into a 🔥 experience!

Step 1: Find Your Dirty Talk Persona

Dirty talk comes in infinite forms, so before you continue on with a single word we should figure out what persona feels most natural to you.

The Sweet-Talker: loves whispering soft affirmations and telling their partner (or partners) how good they feel

Your go-to line might be: “You’re incredible. I could stay here forever.”

The Tease: enjoys building anticipation with playful restraint

Your go-to line might be: “I might let you…” or “Keep begging and maybe I’ll consider it.”

The Director: takes control and gives clear instructions

Your go-to line might be: “Turn around.” or “Touch yourself for me.”

The Storyteller: loves setting the scene, vivid visualization, painting a picture with words

Your go-to line might be: “Imagine I was right there, whispering in your ear.”

The Filthy One: no filter - loves explicit, raw language

Your go-to line might be: “I want you so bad I can’t think straight.”

The Soft Dominant: commands with warmth and care

Your go-to line might be: “Be good and come here.”

The Curious Explorer: learns as they go, asks questions, loves feedback

Your go-to line might be: “Tell me what turns you on the most.”

The Worshipper: makes their partner feel like a deity

Your go-to line might be: “Every inch of you is perfect.”

The Auditory Lover: gets off on the sounds of pleasure as much as the words

Your go-to line might be: “I want to hear you moan.”

The Comedian: keeps things light, fun, and unexpected

Your go-to line might be: “Did you just break my bed? I’m so proud of us.”

 

Not quite sure where you land? Try some of these out loud right now. No one’s listening, promise.

Step 2: Start Small

The goal isn’t to start off sounding like you’re the main character in an erotic novel. Simple statements said with confidence can be just as effective as an entire monologue. Try these out:

• Affirmations 
  •  “You feel so good.”
  •  “I love the way you touch me.”
    
    
•  Questions 
  •  “Do you like that?”
  •  “Tell me what you want next.”
    
    
•  Instructions 
  •  “Don’t stop.”
  •  “Do that again, slower.”
    
    
• Descriptive Words
  •  “You’re so…” (fill in the blank 😉)
    
    💡Tip: Record a voice note just for yourself. Play it back. Laugh. Try again.
    

 

Step 3: Play a Game

⭐ BONUS Fill-in-the-blank-dirty-talk-practice-guide ⭐

Try this exercise to loosen up your language and find what feels good to say. Fill in the blanks with whatever feels natural to you:

•  "I love it when you _____. It makes me feel _____."
•  "I can’t stop thinking about the way you _____."
•  "I want you to _____ me until I can’t _____ anymore."
•  "You make me feel so _____ when you _____."
•  "If I could do anything to you right now, it would be _____."

Say it out loud. Text them. Play around until you find a flow that feels exciting and real.

Want to practice more without pressure? Try these low-stakes games:

Dirty Talk Flashcards: Write different words or phrases on index cards. Pull one at random and use it in a sentence.

Roleplay Roulette: Pick a setting, like strangers at a bar, forbidden romance, late-night phone call, and commit to the bit. It doesn’t have to lead to sex. It’s about getting comfortable with different dynamics.

The One-Word Challenge: You and your partner each pick one word the other has to use in dirty talk that night. This can get real creative, real fast.

Whisper Challenge: One person wears noise-canceling headphones while the other whispers something suggestive. Try to read their lips and guess what they said.

Step 4: Keep It Consensual and Playful

Before you go full speed ahead, let’s make sure everyone is having as much fun as you are. Dirty talk is about pleasure for all involved. Before trying something new, it’s important to check in, and that could sound like:

•  “I really want to say [X] to you. Does that turn you on too?”
•  “What kind of words or phrases make you feel sexy?”
•  “Do you like it when I talk to you like this?”

 

Enthusiastic consent makes dirty talk even hotter. Nothing kills the mood faster than uncertainty.

Own Your Voice

Dirty talk is just another form of communication. You don’t need to sound like anyone else! You just need to sound like you. So, go ahead: whisper, tease, instruct, narrate, or get down with your bad self .

 

💌 Want more tips on pleasure and things we probably shouldn’t say in public? You know where to find us. 🔥